Let's talk on our homes

We talk of marriages breaking up, relationships breaking up, homes breaking up but have we really dig deep to discuss causes and accept individual blames and faults🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 a lot of today's marriages are folding up and having so much heat seasons today because we aren't tolerant of one another's weaknesses, we can't endure days of dryness in our homes again, feminism spirit has made we women see ourselves equal to our husbands in the home, egocentrism has eating the better part of our men who now see themselves as lord and can't even seek their wives opinion in some decisions for the betterment of both, insecurity spirit  and inferiority complex makes some spouse debar progresses for their partner with the mindset of they will be snatched by another,why not do the right things and  see if your spouse will be snatched except the covetous spouses who are never satisfied with what they have. If you spouse as a man gives you so much honour and respect as his wife why tread on a journey of intruding into his hidden privacy of mosafuneto corridors😂😂😂. Let's be realistic and factual here, sometimes spirituality had done more harm than good in our nation, why must you come to church to always discuss your home affairs with your pastors, counselors or church folks don't they have troubles in their home and yet kept and handled it in their ways, are you devaluating your spouse to the world or what... If your spouse does something you aren't so happy or comfortable with, go to your War Room and knee before the maker to change him or her, then sooner than you think the prayer will work and his or her changes will be gradually seen. Why allow your parent full influence on your own home and family, the day you tied the knot with your spouse is the day their 100% influence on you became 40% and the rest percentage is shared between you and your spouse, let's live and correct ourselves as one together before you walk out that door to your parent and label your spouse a bad person. We don't know all these have so much great effect on our kids as they grow up.... I always appreciate my mother so much as a married woman of 40+ years in marriage who never saw the reason to paint her husband black before we kids despite many reasons for us to turned against our dad. Even in her widowhood period now, she stills talk of how great, caring though jealous her husband was while they were much younger, how she never saw rivalry in marriage despite other wife, she loved and appreciated him even after death.
I dedicate this post to my strong mom and every other godly woman out there, I stand to be corrected though but on this reasons I will not support a spouse still  living in a domestic violence or abusive marriage, before you loose your life it's better you loose the home.
Olori MO Hardey